I didn't realize how much I relied on the "bro nod" to communicate. I've always been an equal opportunity kind of guy. So I'll float a nod to anyone...male or female.
Being that I don't know the language here, I've been sending out a lot. Walking down the streets tossing them out left and right. And no one has responded back. I was wondering if I had something hanging from my nose. Am I that big of an idiot here? I know it's a tourist bag, but it's not a fanny pack for God's sake. Am I not cool enough even for a courtesy nod back? You could certainly make a case for that, but I don't have this problem at home.
Maybe I'm just trying to make myself feel better, but I'm thinking it's a thing that we only do in the States. It's a custom they just don't have here. Eye contact. Yes. A smile? Maybe. The "yo" nod. Nope.
I'm exhausted and not feeling well today. Gave me some time to think and analyze this most troubling situation. Now that I've at least imagined an explanation to comfort myself, I can check it off my list and relax. Phew!
3 comments:
Cultural differences! They probably just think you have neck problems.
Keep your chin up - we are rooting for you on the homefront :)
Your experience is indeed a culture thing. When I was in college about 15 years ago, I worked with a lady who had recently come to America from a small town close to Madrid. I had recently returned from a trip to Germany/Bavaria beaming about how friendly everyone was. She told me the greatest difference she found about the States was how people here made eye contact on the streets, and how complete strangers gestured friendliness of some sort. She felt Europeans to be cold in comparison. I had to stop and reflect on my experience, and realized she was right. The friendliness I experienced was by those who waited on us, or after some initial contact. Not once did I recall a stranger's passing nod or random smile; even after I gesture first. I believe that is why she chose to stay in America to finish her education. Embrace the differences. You have the music/art within you that translates in any culture.
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